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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

爱的感觉

爱的感觉,总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜,总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担,你终於不再孤单了,至少有一个人想著你、恋著你,不论做什么事情,只要能一起,就是好的,但是慢慢的,随著彼此的认识愈深,你开始发现了对方的缺点,於是问题一个接著一个发生,你开始烦、累,甚至想要逃避,有人说爱情就像在捡石头,总想捡到一个适合自己的,但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢?*她适合你,那你又适合她吗?

其实,爱情就像磨石子一样,或许刚捡到的时候,你不是那么的满意,但是记住人是有弹性的,很多事情是可以改变的,只要你有心、有勇气,与其到处去捡未知的石头,还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨,你开始磨了吗?很多人以为是因为感情淡了,所以人才会变得懒惰。错!其实是人先被惰性征服,所以感情才会变淡的。

*在某个聚餐的场合,有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好,这时候有个中年男人忽然说:十年前,当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候,她说要吃十只虾,我就剥二十只给她!现在,如果她要我帮她剥虾壳,开玩笑!我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了,还剥虾壳咧!

*听到了吗?明白了吗?难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱,却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。因为,婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。如果每个人都懒得讲话、懒得倾听、懒得制造惊喜、懒得温柔体贴,那么夫妻或是情人之间,又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢?所以请记住:有活力的爱情,是需要适度殷勤灌溉的,谈恋爱,更是不可以偷懒的喔!

*有一对情侣,相约下班後去用餐、逛街,可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了,当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟,他的男朋友很不高兴的说:你每次都这样,现在我甚么心情也没了,我以後再也不会等你了!刹那间,女孩终於决堤崩溃了,她心里在想:或许,他们再也没有未来了*同样的在同一个地点,另一对情侣也面临同样的处境;女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头,他的男朋友说:我想你一定忙坏了吧!接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水,并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上,此刻,女孩流泪了,但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。你体会到了吗?

*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间!爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时,很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了!懂了吗?当有个人爱上你,而你也觉得他不错。那并不代表你会选择他。

*我们总说:我要找一个你很爱很爱的人,才会谈恋爱。但是当对方问你,怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候,你可能无法回答他,因为你自己也不知道。

*没错,我们总是以为,我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。可是後来,当我们猛然回首,我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。假如从来没有开始,你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢?其实,很爱很爱的感觉,是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣,但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了,只是你没发觉而已呢?所以,还是仔细看看身边的人吧!他或许已经等你很久喽!

*当你爱一个人的时候,爱到八分绝对刚刚好。所有的期待和希望都只有七八分;剩下两三分用来爱自己。如果你还继续爱得更多,很可能会给对方沉重的压力,让彼此喘不过气来,完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。

*所以请记住,喝酒不要超过六分醉,吃饭不要超过七分饱,爱一个人不要超过八分*那天朋友问我:到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢?我笑著跟他说:其实每个人的爱情观都不一样,说对了叫开导,但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了!

*如果你也正在为爱迷惘,或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示:爱一个人,要了解,也要开解;要道歉,也要道谢;要认错,也要改错;要体贴,也要体谅;是接受,而不是忍受;是宽容,而不是纵容;是支持,而不是支配;是慰问,而不是质问;是倾诉,而不是控诉;是难忘,而不是遗忘;是彼此交流,而不是凡事交代;是为对方默默祈求,而不是向对方诸多要求;可以浪漫,但不要浪费;可以随时牵手,但不要随便分手。

*^_^*让我们一起祝'愿天下有情人终成眷属!!!!!!!

Thursday, September 25, 2008

《最美丽的第七天》

“上帝创造天地万物
做了七天的时间,
祂将最美丽的事物
都放在世人的面前,
所以人生在世
无论你经历过什么,
只要你懂得珍惜
一切都可以是最美好的。


More info:
http://tvcity.tvb.com/drama/the_seventh_day/index.html
http://ent.sina.com.cn/v/h/f/zmlddqt/index.html

敲敲蛤蜊,學會做個友善的人

敲敲蛤蜊,學會做個友善的人

◎黃迺毓/

來源:網路流傳

小時候我很喜歡做的一件事,就是幫忙媽媽檢查回來的蛤蜊裡有沒有壞的。

蛤蜊的外殼看起來都差不多,但是如果一不小心讓一個臭掉的蛤蜊混在新鮮蛤蜊中,那整碗湯就都糟蹋了,所以雖是小事 一椿,我可一點也不敢掉以輕心,並將此神聖的使命視為莊嚴的儀式 ,用虔誠又恭敬的心情在做這件事。

檢查的方法是用左手先拿住一個蛤蜊,再用右手撿起其他蛤蜊,一個一個的敲敲看,如果蛤蜊敲出的聲音是結實的,就是新鮮的蛤蜊,如果敲的聲音是虛的,有點沙啞,不管它的口閉得多繄,還是臭的蛤蜊。

小孩子耳朵好,很容易就可以辨別出好壞,自從母親教過我 之後,我幾乎不曾「誤判」過,也使家人每次在享受鮮美的蛤蜊湯時,都會誇獎這個「蛤蜊鑑定專家」。

所有的蛤蜊都是臭的!

有 一天,母親又買回一包蛤蜊,我熟練的拿出一個大碗,開始我的鑑定工作,出乎意料之外的是:居然「所有的」蛤蜊都是壞掉的?我簡直不敢相信我的耳朵,一個一 個再敲過一次,竟然仍然「沒有一個」蛤蜊是好的!那種感覺就很像一位警察到一部公車上去抓扒手,結果發現一車的人都是扒手!

我捧著那一大碗被判刑的蛤蜊去稟告母親,母親很是驚訝 :「怎麼會這樣呢?這個賣蛤蜊的從來不會騙我的呀?」

於是母親大人親自動手檢驗,這才發現原來我抓在左手中的 那個蛤蜊是壞的!難怪敲起來聲音全部不對勁!這種「原來如此」的恍然大悟的經驗,往往在孩子心中烙下深刻的溝痕,然後進入記憶的深處,等候生命的唱盤再度轉到那個相似的部位。

都遇到不好的人!

大學畢業後我開始工作,我非常的努力,對自己有些期許,也有些要求,但是有一段時間我對周圍的人都看不順眼,在我眼中,「每一個人」都有令我難以忍受的缺點,我很想改造他們,而改造不 了時,我又想躲避他們。我覺得自己很倒楣,很不幸,怎麼「都」遇 到不好的人!

正當我沉醉於自怨自哀時,心中忽然響起「蛤蜊之歌」,難不成我就是那個壞掉的蛤蜊?我聽到那麼多「別人的」沙啞之聲竟可能是我本身造成的?

按照常理,一個人不會只遇到壞人,周圍有些人對你友善,有些人對你不友善,這樣的機率最大。那我?那我可能就是那個不友善的人,我用自己的高標準去檢驗我周圍的人,看起來我對大家都不滿意,其實我最不滿意的人是我自己!我沒那麼好,別人也沒那麼差!

我忘了我震驚於這個內心的自我發現有多久,我其實很難過,原來我沒我裝出來的那麼好,別人也沒我看的那麼差。我有兩個抉擇的方向:一個是--把自己裝得更好,使得別人看起來更差!另一個選擇則是──開始學著去欣賞別人。因為只有在看到別人的好時, 我才會發現自己的好,也才能真正欣賞自己。

這是一段漫長的歷程,一開始甚至要「強迫」自己,很像視 力矯正」。要把不順眼的看、看、看,看到順眼。每當我想放棄時, 就想起那個差點害我將整碗新鮮的蛤蜊倒掉的臭蛤蜊。

幾年下來,我也體驗到原來這項能力不僅改善了我的人際關係,對於教師這個職份也有不可或缺的重要性。面對形形色色的學生 ,我如何去聽出噪音中的樂音,更進一步去判斷他的旋律和節奏? 不成偉人?做友善的人吧!沒想到吧?這麼一件小小的家事訓練,竟也可以影響我如此 巨大!

你,如果沒有成為偉人的抱負,至少也可以像我敲敲蛤蜊, 學會做個友善的人吧。

〈作者現任台灣師範大學家政教育研究所教授〉

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

愛很簡單



副刊 星雲 2008-08-04 18:47

那一個傍晚,開車載了一個友人回怡保,嚴格上來說是他開我的車載我。陪他到格拉那再也的小販中心用晚飯,我們找了一個空桌坐下,沒多久就來了一對老夫婦,看上去約七十多歲了。因為晚餐時間緣故,較難找空位,他們就和我們同桌。看那對老夫妻,心里為之動容。

他們的愛情很簡單,可以簡單到年老的一天仍舊守在對方的身邊。不管生老病死、貧窮富足、喜怒哀樂,他們都不離不棄,堅守年輕時對彼此曾許下的承諾。

為甚麼我們這個年頭的愛情就不能如此,總是在錯的時間遇見對的人,或者是對的時間遇見錯的人。

愛的原點是簡單

矛盾。複雜。無奈。

然後,就這樣擦身而過。

就這樣秒秒分分天天年年過去了。

就這樣還是一個孤影。

其實,我只想要一段很簡單的愛情。像那對老夫妻般可以攜手走到白發蒼蒼的那一天,那一個歲月里大家還是深愛對方,彼此沒有忘了當年在上帝面前的承諾。

手牽手完成了半個人生。

那個簡單的愛情一直到生命的結束。

因為,愛的原點是簡單。

愛很簡單。

Monday, September 08, 2008

Asparagus

Asparagus

Several years ago, I had a man seeking asparagus for a friend who had
cancer. He gave me a photocopied copy of an article,
entitled,`Asparagus for cancer' printed in Cancer News Journal,
December 1979. I will share it here, just as it was shared with me:

'I am a biochemist, and have specialised in the relation of diet to
health for over 50 years. Several years ago, I learned of the
discovery of Richard R. Vensal, D.D.S. that asparagus might cure
cancer. Since then, I have worked with him on his project, and we have
accumulated a number of favourable case histories. Here are a few
examples.
Case No. 1, man with an almost hopeless case of Hodgkin's disease
(cancer of the lymph glands) who was completely incapacitated. Within
1 year of starting the asparagus therapy, his doctors were unable to
detect any signs of cancer, and he was back on a schedule of strenuous
exercise.
Case No. 2, a successful businessman 68 years old who suffered from
cancer of the bladder for 16 years. After years of medical treatments,
including radiation without improvement, he went on asparagus. Within
3 months,examinations revealed that his bladder tumour had disappeared
and that his kidneys were normal.
Case No. 3, a man who had lung cancer. On March 5th 1971 he was put on
the operating table where they found lung cancer so widely spread
that it was
inoperable. The surgeon sewed him up and declared his case hopeless.
On April 5th he heard about the asparagus therapy and immediately
started taking it. By August, x-ray pictures revealed that all signs
of the cancer had disappeared. He is back at his regular business
routine.
Case No. 4, a woman who was troubled for a number of years with skin
cancer. She finally developed different skin cancers which were
diagnosed by a skin specialist as advanced. Within 3 months after
starting on |asparagus, her skin specialist said that her skin looked
fine and no more skin lesions.

This woman reported that the asparagus therapy also cured her kidney
disease, which started in 1949. She had over 10 operations for kidney
stones, and was receiving government disability payments for an
inoperable, terminal, kidney condition. She attributes the cure of
this kidney trouble entirely to the asparagus.

I was not surprised at this result, as `The elements of material
medica', edited in 1854 by a Professor at the University of
Pennsylvania , stated that asparagus was used as a popular remedy for
kidney stones. He even referred to experiments, in 1739, on the power
of asparagus in dissolving stones. We would have other case histories
but the medical establishment has interfered with our obtaining some
of the records.

I am therefore appealing to readers to spread this good news and help
us to gather a large number of case histories that will overwhelm the
medical skeptics about this unbelievably simple and natural remedy.For
the treatment, asparagus should be cooked before using, and therefore
canned asparagus is just as good as fresh. I have corresponded with
the two leading canners of asparagus, Giant Giant and Stokely, and I
am satisfied that these brands contain no pesticides or preservatives.
Place the cooked asparagus in a blender and liquefy to make a puree,
and store in the refrigerator. Give the patient 4 full tablespoons
twice daily, |morning and evening. Patients usually show some
improvement in from 2-4 weeks. It can be diluted with water and used
as a cold or hot drink. This |suggested dosage is based on present
experience, but certainly larger amounts can do no harm and may be
needed in some cases.
As a biochemist I am convinced of the old saying that `what cures can
prevent'. Based on this theory, my wife and I have been using
asparagus |puree as a beverage with our meals. We take 2 tablespoons
diluted in water to suit our taste with breakfast and with dinner. I
take mine hot and my wife prefers hers cold. For years we have made
it a practice to have blood surveys taken as part of our regular
checkups.
The last blood survey, taken by a medical doctor who specialises in
the nutritional approach to health, showed substantial improvements in
all categories over the last one, and we can attribute these
improvements to |nothing but the asparagus drink. As a biochemist, I
have made an extensive study of all aspects of cancer, and all of the
proposed cures.
As a result, I am convinced that asparagus fits in better with the
latest theories about cancer.
Asparagus contains a good supply of protein called histones, which are
believed to be active in controlling cell growth. For that reason, I
believe asparagus can be said to contain a substance that I call cell
growth normaliser. That accounts for its action on cancer and in
acting as a general body tonic. In any event, regardless of theory,
asparagus used as we suggest, is a harmless substance.

The FDA cannot prevent you from using it and it may do you much good.'
It has been reported by the US National Cancer Institute, that
asparagus is the highest tested food containing glutathione, which is
considered one of the body's most potent anticarcinogens and
antioxidants

Friday, September 05, 2008

HORRIBLE Secret Recipe: Pisang Goreng + Plastic Bottle !!

[ 可怕 ] 不要再吃 pisang goreng 油炸香蕉了

email 转帖,刚刚看了很想给全部住在malaysia的人知道,不要再吃 pisang goreng
了,像作者说的,干脆叫妈妈买来自己炸,还是自己的妈妈做的食物有爱心、良心。

不只是中国才有黑心食品啊,这回可是远在天边,近在眼前了!!!
曾和家人到金馬崙高原遊玩,
当時的時间是中午3点多..

我们在巴刹一帶逛逛看看,当时有很多一档一档的小贩在做生意, 顿時我的視線被某一档小贩的'奇景'
吸引住了, 這一个档口是贩卖炸食物的档口...一大锅'熱勝腾' 的油...竟然有一个装5 公升的空油桶' 切成一半'
在熱油锅中慢慢的在溶化!

当时我看到整个人都傻了!还以為那17..8..岁的女孩子不小心把油桶掉進锅里去?可是看她用一双筷子把油桶翻耒翻去的!
看情形不是不小心掉了油桶
很自然的赶紧叫家人一起看!
這時那个女孩子和坐在旁边的双親就把眼光转过來?以那种'惡意'的眼神盯着我们

天啊!果真是以空油桶溶化了炸出来的食物当街卖啊!
难怪
現代的人得了這么多'無名病'啊!'

回应这张贴的人,很多都知道真有此事,比如炸小葱是用吸水管(straw)炸的,还有 plastic
bag 用来炸香蕉。

他们在油里参了PLASTIC,原因是要那些食物放久了不会软绵绵。
不会软绵绵的原因是因为PLASTIC被溶化再硬固的关系。


试验结果如下试验了!!!

两公升油500ml矿泉水瓶一只没加料(矿泉水瓶)时炸一次 -
炸出来的有点硬,但很快软绵绵!!

加料(矿泉水瓶)时再炸一次- 出来是比KFC的还脆!!

请你们不好再买香蕉炸,咖哩puff, Keropok Lekor,或是炸鸡饭了。
大姐一吃了喉咙就不舒服,应该是这原因吧!

以后要吃什么,还是叫mummy 炸给你们吃比较安全。我明天就来去买香蕉!!!

我恳请你们花点时间,去爬完这张贴吧,爬完后,我打包单,你们一定不会再吃街边
的炸食物了。

不只是金马伦的有问题,原来这是他们的secret recipe家传秘方。
我看十摊,十一摊有加料啦!那摊主不是很笨就是胆大包天!

不会在家里先把桶丢进油里,竟然笨到在众目睽睽之下,做这些丧尽天良的事。


Saturday, April 19, 2008

PLASTIC GORENG WILL MAKE YOU SICK

This is a true story (from my friend).

Mum said my uncle saw it in Tunjang (Kedah) and the pasar malam in
Titi Chai Kangar (Perlis) where goreng pisang was sold on afternoons.

The hawker added a plastic drinking straw into a wok of hot oil and
let it melt completely before he started to fry some bananas in the
bubbling oil.

This is why some fried bananas and ubi are so crispy... for hours...!!

My uncle asked the hawker about this, but the hawker did not answer
him. When my uncle told my mum about this, they realised this is how
the hawkers ensure that fried food stays crispy for their customers.
My mum said that in Thailand, they do the same thing to keep fried
ikan bilis and fried onions crispy, even if left in the open for
hours!!

Another time, I was with my family in Cameron Highlands. It was 3:00
pm and we were hanging around the market area, where there were
several hawker stalls.

At one of them, there was a big wok of boiling oil with an empty
plastic bottle floating in it and slowly melting. At first I thought
it had fallen into the oil accidentally, but then I saw a little girl,
about 7-years old, holding a pair of chopsticks and stirring the
bottle around in the hot oil.

I realised, Oh my God... these people were using melted plastic to fry
food, so that the fried snacks would not turn soft when it cooled down
later.

Please forward to all your friends... DO NOT EAT CRISPY FRIED SNACKS
from the hawkers!! Even if you don't see them melting the plastic in
oil, they might have added the plastic a few hours before. After all,
they keep the black oil for next day's frying as well, to save cost on
cooking oil.